Our Engagement!

Hello everyone, as you hopefully have heard already by now, Lori and I are engaged!  Here is the tale of the day, and preparation of the day, from my point of view…

I had been thinking about a Christmas engagement for a few months now.  Lori and I were in Scotland over the summer, which would seem to be a perfect opportunity (castles, cliffs, etc.), but the timing just didn’t seem right and I decided that Christmas was the right time.  The first part of the process was to get the right ring, but to somehow do it without Lori knowing anything about it.

The Fellowship of the Ring

I had been looking at some diamonds at Jubilee Jewelers (Bonnie at Rideau helped me out) and was attracted to the Lazare ‘Ideal Cut’.  I liked the idea cut because it is cut in a manner that takes advantage of the physical properties of light to create at ‘retroflector‘.  I am going to geek out here for a bit…  Lazare Kaplan has been cutting diamonds since 1903, and in 1919 Marcel Tolkowsky (Lazare’s cousin) came up with a mathematical formula for the cut of a diamond to maximize the refraction of light using the concept of total internal reflection.  Basically its a ‘cats eye’ which reflects the maximum amount of light back to its source, much like the little glass spheres that they use in the paint of stop signs.  All that to say that 1) an Engineering Physics degree can be useful when diamond shopping and 2) the diamond looks really really pretty.

I was going to shop around a lot more, but then Lori’s friend Naomi told me that Lori had been into a different Jubilee shop and had fallen in love with the exact same cut (in a slightly different setting than I had selected).  I thought that this was a good sign that I should focus on this diamond.

Naomi was kind enough to come help me pick out the final choice, which you can see in the picture below (not to scale):

Lori's Rock

For those into diamond specifications, it is a 0.91 carat Ideal cut SI2 diamond with a ‘G’ clarity rating.  The setting is in platinum.

Jubilee was able to get me the ring before the weekend, which allowed my plan to go off without a hitch.  While I visited the store twice, I managed to bump into people I know BOTH times!  Luckily, they were not people that would bump into Lori on a regular basis.

The Special Day

I had made reservations at 18 Restaurant in the Market as well as the Chateau Laurier for the evening of the 21st of December.  Being a Sunday night, and in a snowstorm (which I didn’t plan), I expected things to be quiet at both places, which was exactly what I was looking for.

At this point, I still had not completely cemented the plan, and the location of the proposal was still up in the air (restaurant, lobby of hotel, hotel room were all possibilities).  I tend to think best under pressure, so my brain helped me out in the end.  I checked into the hotel room so that I could get my bottle of Veuve Clicquot Brut Champagne chilling on the coffee table with a couple of glasses.  This also gave me a chance to check out the room which was a corner suite (RM# 596) with a great north facing view over the river which you can see below:

Ottawa River from Chateau Laurier

I have to thank the staff at the Chateau Laurier for the great choice of room.  Once I told them what the mission of the evening was they upgraded me to a corner suite with that great view!  Their mission statement is “Turning moments into memories.”, and it certainly seems they practice what they preach.

So the rough plan now was: park at the Chateau, have a great dinner, get her to the hotel to set the mood, get to the room for the proposal, all without tipping her off as to what was going on.

This was when the final plan started to gel.  Rule #1 to creating a really believeable -but false- story, is to root it in as much truth as possible.  I chose my friend Matt Gorbet to be the core of the story.  Matt was a good choice because Lori hasn’t actually had the pleasure of meeting him yet, so there was no risk of her getting suspicious about anything I said.  I have talked about Matt enough so that Lori knows that he does many weird and wonderful things, is from Ottawa, and the idea that he would be too busy visiting friends and family during his ‘short visit’ to Ottawa to have made plans with us ahead of time was plausible.

When I got home, I told Lori that I had bumped into Matt in downtown Ottawa during the day, who was visiting the town on business, and we had discussed that Lori and I were going to have dinner in the Market.  He had then offered his parking pass since he had got one with his really swank room, but was using taxis and didn’t need it.  This allowed me to park at the Chateau without getting Lori suspicious.  It also gave me the excuse to come back to the hotel late in the evening to visit Matt.

After a great dinner at 18 Restaurant, it was clear that Lori did not suspect a thing.  So little did she suspect anything, she actually had us go shopping at Chapters for Christmas gifts for my niece Julia.  Finally, after dragging her out of the store, we made our way to the Chateau to inspect he Yousef Karsh photos that grace the room off of the main lobby.

Karsh came up in conversation before because Lori had bought some stamps that featured a picture of Audrey Hepburn which had been snapped by the photographer.  She didn’t know that Yousef had actually resided in the hotel for some time, taking photos of many famous people including Einstein and Winston Churchill, which are both on display in the hotel.

This gave me the opportunity to get her up to the room.  I pretended to answer my iPhone which Lori knows is always on vibrate (so this was not suspicious):  “Hi Matt… oh ok…. about 15 minutes?….  sure we can wait there… do you really think the parking pass will work?… do you have a mini-bar?… are you being comped?  If so we will help you by cleaning out your mini bar <laugh>… ok, see you soon.”

I then told Lori that Matt would meet us soon, but in the interim, we should wait in his room and we were welcome to have a drink while we were waiting.  Lori then proceeded to take me on a tour of the hotel showing me the various rooms where she had fraternity socials, wedding, receptions etc.  She CLEARLY wasn’t catching on…

FINALLY, I got her to follow me up to the room.  I had swapped the parking pass in my wallet for the room key (which look much the same) and tried the door telling Lori that I wasn’t sure that the key would work, but Matt was sure so there was a good chance that it would.

We entered the room, and I thought the champagne on the table might finally tip her off, but apparently she thought it just fit in to such a swanky room.  I pointed to the following element of the room which forms the corner of the corner suite, and looks like a turret from the outside of the building, and asked “What do you think that is for?”:

Turret at Chateau LaurierLori replies: “Reading!”

After palming the ring box from my jacket pocket, I guide her to the corner and sit down with her.  At this point she still hadn’t noticed that I was holding anything.

Adrian: “I have some good news and some bad news, what do you want to hear first?”

Lori: <look of panic on her face> “Uh… bad news?” [People always want the bad news first.]

Adrian: “The bad news is that I am broke, I have no money to buy you any Christmas presents!”

Lori: <confused panicked look continues>

Adrian: “The good news…” <kneels down on one knee, opens ring box presenting the ring> “Will you marry me?”

Lori: <panicked look changes to combined, about-to-cry/excited/happy look> “Yes.”

And now the punch line…

Lori: “Does Matt know about this??”

Adrian: [This ruse worked a little too well…] “Um… Matt is not coming, this isn’t his room, it is ours.”

Lori: “Oh my… and I had you shop at Chapters!!”

Yah… I thought that was pretty funny too.

Here is a picture of the re-enactment of the happy moment (you can tell it is a re-enactment, she isn’t nearly as excited-looking in this photo):

Lori & Adrian Engaged

So anyway, we had a great night!  Thanks to all for your congratulations!!

My parents probably gave the best response: “We are very happy with your choice… and about time!!”

Kevin Thomson & Michelle Tonelli

Originally uploaded by Adrian F1
I finally got through all the wedding pictures from my weekend wedding marathon (click on this picture to go to the collection on Flickr or click here for a slideshow).

Here are the pictures from Kevin & Michelle’s wedding. As you can see they make an attractive couple. As you will see from the pictures, they laughed, they cried and generally had an excellent wedding!

Thanks for inviting Lori and I, and my parents really enjoyed themselves as well.

It was great catching up with everyone from the old neighbourhood!!

Erika & Brandon’s Wedding Pictures are Finally Up!

Originally uploaded by Adrian F1
Having attended two weddings this past weekend, I had a lot of photo processing to do. To be fair I am uploading the sets in chronological order, so Kevin and Michelle will have to wait (sorry!).

I hope you enjoy the pictures, it was a very photogenic location with many photogenic people! Especially the bride and groom!

Congrats Erika and Brandon!


Jason & Margo’s Wedding Reception

Originally uploaded by Adrian F1
While there are many many pictures, this is my favourite, and the one I chose to attach to my blog to let friends and family know that these reception pictures are finally up (make sure to click on the pictures to see the descriptions)!

Barry does do a pretty convincing John Travolta!

I had a great time, thanks to everyone who helped put it together!!


Jason & Margo’s Rehersal Party

A Deliriously Happy Jason

Originally uploaded by Adrian F1
As I slowly make my way through all the pictures I took on my trip to Saskatoon, I am posting sets to my Flickr account.

This set includes shots from the night before the wedding, at the rehearsal party at Jason’s mom’s house. As you will see it was a pretty packed place, and good fun and good food was had by all.

Thanks to Jason’s mom & Gary for being gracious hosts, and to everyone that helped with the food! It was yummy!

Jason & Margo Smith’s Saskatoon Wedding

I have been busy this past week editing the ~600 photos I took during my visit to Saskatoon. So far I have managed to get through the pictures of the actual service, which was held outdoors (during a brief respite from rain) at the University of Saskatoon campus on August 18th, 2007.

For more photos (just about 100 now) visit my Flickr album.

Off to Toontown…

SK Flag

I don’t think Saskatoon is going to know what hit it. A very large contingent of friends and family are going to participate in Jason & Margo Smith’s wedding this weekend in Saskatoon, and many are traveling from Ottawa (and are serious nutters).

Now, I have slandered the province of Saskatchewan perhaps once, or twice (serious understatement here), which is just silly since I have never been there. But those ‘Saskwaches’, ‘Saskatchewanians’ – need I say more – are easy marks. I am blessed to have worked with many of them, who moved to Ottawa in order to find gainful employment, and to be with people they aren’t related to.

Currently I visualize SK as one big wheat field, interrupted only by the occasional drunk. I will let you all know my impressions when I get back. I will probably take along my camera to document the trip, but I doubt I will bring my extra flash cards, as how many pictures of wheat can you take?? But hey, where there is wheat there is beer, so I am in!

Chat soon,


P.S. I have heard that Saskatoon is really into the CFL and their Roughriders… This I have to confirm: There is a place that cares about the CFL? 😯


So now I am waiting in the Maple Leaf lounge at the Winnipeg airport on a 2 hour stopover on the the way to Saskatoon (such are the charms of flying to nowhere), but I am quite impressed with how flat Manitoba is! I thought SK was supposed to be the flat one, but if it is, I am having a hard time imagining it since MB appears pretty durned flat.

If you can’t already tell, I am about 8 drinks in to my trip (c/o Air Canada) so I think I will be in the right mindset to land in Saskatoon. 🙂

Here is a picture of my buddies (in first class) Laura and Barry (Laura was able to work her Woo magic to get us up in the good seats).

Barry and Laura - In first class

Here is Scott and Karen in the cheap seats:

Scott and Karen in the Cheap Seats

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